Do you have an inner critic?
We all have an internal monologue or ‘self-talk’ that arises at various times or in various situations. Self-talk can also be described as a still small voice or a whisper that arises in one’s mind. Ultimately, what we say to ourselves or about a situation can either encourage us, assist us, bring relief; or, it can have a negative impact on our mood, esteem, body, and behavior. If one’s self-talk is critical and condemning, and it is continued over time, it creates a bleak landscape for one’s life.
How do you identify your inner dialogue? Try making a list of 5 automatic statements you say to yourself during a day. Observe these automatic thoughts and consider how they influence you. Practice this activity several times a week to determine what your landscapes look like. The objective of this practice is to recognize the quality of your self-talk.
If you find that you have an inner critic, try the following tips to improve your self-talk.
- Utilize positive affirmations. You can create your own, use Bible verses, or positive quotes.
- Use positive counterstatements to challenge the negative dialogue.
- Keep affirming messages around you (decor, magnets, post-it notes, etc…).
- Create art activities with affirmations.
- Incorporate a daily calendar with affirmations and encouraging quotes.
- Utilize media. Listen to encouraging songs, sermons, or podcasts. Watch inspiring videos or movies.
What we tell ourselves really does make a difference. Gentle attention to our self-talk over time will quiet the inner critic. Here are some statements to get you started.
I am lovable.
I am in control.
I am safe, secure, protected.
I am a valuable person.
I have a unique plan and purpose for my life.
I have inner strength.
I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me.
Wishing you wellness and peace,